Do you like to be with you?
My answer use to be “not really”. When I was younger, I really hated it. I would ALWAYS find something to do or find someone to hang out with me. Why? I didn’t like being with myself that much. I wasn’t my best friend. Being alone with Barbara meant I had to spend time with my own thoughts and feelings. Being with someone else let me focus on them instead. That was so much easier.
I’ve done a lot of work and now love hanging out with Barbara. She’s pretty fun and always has some interesting thoughts. She’s turned out to be my best friend and always has my back.
It’s been interesting to work with my clients who were forced to spend time alone during the pandemic. It ended up being an incredible time of self-growth for them. They learned to love being with themselves and now even look forward to scheduling alone time. They’re not afraid of the thoughts they have or the way they talk to themselves. What about you?
Do you find yourself to be good company? ·
Do you have fun with you?
Are you interested in what your own brain has to say?
Do you even take the time to listen?
Do you hear yourself out with open-ness and love?
Do you have compassion for you when you need it most?
Do you nurture your desires and interests appropriately?
Do you refrain from judging yourself as much as possible?
Do you have a connection with you?
Do you trust that you can count on you?
Do you commend yourself for the good things you do?
Do you thank yourself for doing the hard things?
Do you give yourself honest but kind feedback?
Do you love yourself unconditionally?
If not, we have work to do together. And it's the most important work of your lifetime.