Having THAT Conversation

Are you struggling with having a conversation with a family member or loved one?

I know what you are going through and that feeling of being conflicted.  You want to have the conversation, but don’t know how to start.  You vacillate between whether to have it or not.

Believe it or not, you already know what to do and have all the answers. They will present themselves as you begin to uncover your thoughts and intentionally choose the thoughts that will drive your feelings.  These feelings will lead to your actions and desired outcomes. 

Think about the feeling you want to generate that will lead you to taking action in speaking up and having a conversation with your loved one.  I know this can be scary.  You might be clear in wanting the result to be that both of you speak openly about what you are thinking and feeling.  Although you may want your results to include the other people, it is important to remember that the result you are searching for is the one you want for yourself.  Which maybe YOU speaking openly about what you are thinking and feeling.  Coming to a conversation from a place of vulnerability and openness is so powerful.  It sounds like just the opposite, but real connection comes when we express how we genuinely feel.  Uncomfortable as it might be, expressing our own fears, shame or self-doubt, opens the door.

What feeling do you need to generate to take the action of having the conversation?  Love, courage or is there another emotion that feels truer for you?  

Now, what is the thought that will put you in that place of feeling the emotion?

Whenever we can come from a place of love and not make what is happening about the other person, we show up with an open heart for listening and speaking our truth.  I encourage you to find that feeling for yourself so that you are showing up just as you want to.