Regrets

Have you ever wished that you had done things differently?

Maybe you yelled at your partner, maybe you told a lie.  Perhaps you had something you wanted to say but instead stayed quiet.  We all have past regrets.  It’s what we do with them now that matters.  The way I see it, there are 3 options:

 #1- Get a time machine and go back to do it over.  If you’ve invented one, please let me know!

 #2- Be miserable, feel guilt, shame and keep wishing you had done it differently.  Blame yourself.  This feels terrible.

 #3 – Decide that it may or may not have turned out differently if you hadn’t done, said, didn’t say, didn’t do whatever it was.  The truth is that you will never know.

What if it happened the way it did because that was exactly what was supposed to happen?  What if you didn’t do it a different way because you didn’t know how to then?  Didn’t have the tools or the experience.  How do we know it worked out the way it was supposed to?  Because that’s what happened. 

 Now, what do you want to do with where you are? How do you want to show up? What do you want to do, say, or not say?  Let the past regrets go, knowing that they happened exactly as they were supposed to so that you could be right here, right now, the person you are.