Are You Your Own Best Friend?

I often coach on being your own best friend.  Having your own back, no matter what.  In the end, the only person you can ever really count on is you. You are forced to be in a relationship with yourself whether you like it or not. Why not make it as good a relationship as possible?

I love this definition of a Best Friend from Urban Dictionary:

“A best friend is someone who is there for you through thick and thin. It's someone who listens and understands you. Someone you can call anytime about anything you feel you need to 'tell' or 'vent'.

It's someone who will stand up for you in the times when you need it most, keep your secrets close, and someone you can trust with your life. They will support you in any decision you make even if it's hard for them. It's someone who is there for you as much as they can be and does and says whatever they can to up your mood in down times.

You can be your COMPLETE and total self around this person without feeling uncomfortable. You can say or do anything, and your relationship never changes. Someone who literally feels sent from heaven to make your life that much easier. Someone who will do almost anything for you as you would do for them, and someone who loves you no matter what kind of stupid things you do.

This person will always want the best for you, as you will always want for them. And as much as people change- Your love with a REAL best friend  will never fade through all the phases of life and problems that come a long with it”

Most of us would agree that this is a good description of both the kind of friend we would like to have and the kind of friend we would like to be.  Read through it again and see if you routinely apply all of these same things to yourself.  Probably not.  Most of us are much kinder to others than we are to ourselves.  And yet loving ourselves is the ultimate way to have a better life and more love to spread.